Yes for years! I finally got away from him and life is better!

yes

Yez Bottom line is changing partner if they dont get help.Its just a waist of time if they dont.

Switch spouse with live-in-girlfriend, then yes. Never again. I'll leave the advice to the ladies. It's not the same for guys.

Yes, for 27 years, he has it in his mind that it wasn't as bad as I say it was. He justified doing things saying it was for his older daughter but never followed up with her, he just let her run wild and be with people she shouldn't have ever been around. My life was full of psychological abuse, but 3 years after we started dating I got pregnant after being told I could never have children. Once he agreed to help me raise her, things got worse, he only took credit for the good and cursed me out every time anything happened to her. Normal childhood bumps, bruises, and scrapes. After insisting I would never be his girlfriend or anything else somewhere down the line I was promoted to girlfriend with only certain people. We lived in separate houses and what happened at my house was my problem. Including when I became disabled. At 12, everything fell upon my daughter to take care of me. Her father took me to my appointments and criticized how unkempt my house was in front of our daughter who was doing the best she could. He was only a father when it suited him. Now at 23, my daughter resents me for being chronically ill. We have a very tumultuous relationship. As for him who swore he would rather be in a nursing home then have me csre for him in his twilight years, is a major stressor in my life. I can barely take care of myself and he guilt trips me into helping him with his numerous appointments, newly discovered anxiety ( to which he never had and always down played mine saying that he didn't understand my anxiety and I was just crazy ) he is also new to chronic pain and his pain and anxiety is worse than anyone else on the planet.
This wasn't the life, I envisioned for myself, or wanted. My Mom drove away the one I should have been with....oh well! Now I am alone, feeling like a reject in life, a failure, no friends, barely a relationship with my daughter who lives with me, and chronic pain.