Sometimes its easier to talk to strangers than those close to you so could you encourage him to join a site like this ?

Thanks!

@ DanielOwens I have found through past experiences that people tend to be their "true" selves around those that they are comfortable around and won't be judged. This I believe is why you get the "leftover shit."
Remember that it takes more energy out of a person to pretend they're "fine" than being their true selves.

It isn't easy when dealing with pain or chronic pain. Add depression or anxiety to that and it's worse. I miss the person I used to be pre-chronic pain. My family and friends all used to try and "talk" to me when I was having a bad day and usually it was the things I should be doing, like getting out and doing things, but they also figured I should be able to just "shake things off" which is never the case so I would get extremely frustrated and distance from those that didn't understand my situation. I got to a point where I finally started pushing myself. No one can make you do something except yourself.
Patience is a virtue but remember your pain isn't the same as his pain.
Gentle hugs to you both.

I am in a similar predicament. My wife has Rheumatoid Arthritis and is attacking everything. Between the pain and the meds I feel like I am living with a stranger. She seems to be able to get up in spirit for others but I get all the leftover shit.

Need guidance.