I think that pain makes us "hit out" at those we least mean to. My poor husband has had to put up with a lot of negativity from me when I'm having bad days - & I feel so devastated afterwards. He is so supportive of me, & is not well himself (a cancer survivor) which makes me feel terrible; but at least he understands & is so supportive of me. My other "support" is our dog - a Boxer (similar to yours Marlene) who always is there when I'm having a bad day & need to stay in bed.

Hi new member - yes, I certainly do. I am on disability and my husband is retired so we are together 24/7. He understands me. I do get so aggravated at times and say things I shouldn't because his only desire is to help me. Usually I just go to bed and remain very quiet until I can pull myself out of the negativity. This works well for both of us.

Yes, @A MyChronicPainTeam Member, I get snappy. Part of it is because I feel like I am victim and that no one who doesn't have this understands. Part of it is from the loss of control of parts of my life. And yes, a big part of it is simply the pain, itself. Good luck.

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I find when my pain is bad I do get really grumpy. I try not to but it's so hard not to. I am so lucky and blessed to have my boyfriend. He has stuck by me through surgeries and pain and sickness. My daughter is my rock too. I would go crazy if I didn't have them and my two dogs. Lately when I am having really bad pain days I try to stay in bed and try to sleep through it. But that is not always possible. Plus my long term is always trying to cut me off so that doesn't help the stress level either.

Oh yes, I been feeling that way for a long time now, try not to take it out on the kids or spouse. I usually go outside or in the bedroom to be alone sometimes it works but most of the time I hurt so my anger does not go away even with the meds I take. So I know where your coming from. They say to relax but how do you do that when your pain is above 10 or more.